I’m just going to post this as it came to me. Some friends are hosting a little Play Party for Valentine’s Day in Montréal. The group, Against the Wall, focuses on Queer/Trans gender inclusion. I’ve never been to a play party, so I may just pop in, but I did find the invite a good read, especially the rules. Very informative and open minded. Kinky details follow:
SATURDAY, FEBRUARY 14TH, 2009
AGAINST THE WALL PRESENTS:
FUCK LOVE, LET’S FUCK QUEER/TRANS* PARTY
An adult-themed anti-valentine’s day party for queer and trans folk of all genders
The party is at Eastern Bloc (7240 rue Clark, just above Jean Talon).
18+, ID required (we will be looking at the birthdate only, sex marker will be ignored completely). 10$
The party runs from 9pm until 3am. No entries after 3am
Schedule:
9:00pm - workshop on consent and trans-inclusion/trans-positivity
10:30pm - performance art and spoken word by trish salah, Kate L, Jordan Leoppky-Kolesnik, Ms. Mandrew Flowerthorne & Laurence Laurence Laurence, and Sarah Fuchs & Coral Short
11:30pm - cruising, playing, spin the bottle, porn screenings, and dance party with djs riotghost, faggotron, dirtyboots, noisy nora + more
We will not be selling alcohol. Please bring your own and keep substance use to a minimum. A non-alcoholic bar will be available for snacks, juice, and so on.
Safer sex supplies (gloves, condoms, lube, alcohol pads) will be provided all night. Active Listeners will be on site all night for people to talk to if they feel triggered/just need to chat. Monitors will also be on site all night to ensure safe play is happening.
We regret that the space is not wheelchair accessible. We are currently searching for an accessible venue for our play parties, and would appreciate any leads you might have. please get in touch if you know of anything!
Now before you jump in, get familiar with our rules and ethics that are listed below. You will be asked to read them again before being allowed into the space.
The Against The Wall code of conduct:
Do not assume people’s genders.
This is a queer and trans*-positive space, free of corporal oppression. Please check your shit at the door.
Clean up after your scene and respect the space. Be respectful of other people’s spaces, too.
No cameras allowed.
Clean up after your scene and be respectful of the space.
Keep substance use to a minimum.
Respect the no-sex areas (cuddle room, exterior chillout space).
Practice safe/r sex.
Smoking outside only.
Negociate safewords before your scenes, put them to use when you feel the need to.
If you’re a voyeur, stand at a respectable distance and watch, quietly.
If you feel triggered and/or need to talk, go see the active listening person (pink bandana on arm).
If you need help or have any questions, find the organizer (white bandana on arm).
We reserve to right to kick out (or ban) any participant who is deemed disruptive, offensive, or verbally/sexually abusive.
*The anti-valentine’s day party is open to queer and trans folk of all genders*
Also, to reflect the changes our collective has made recently, here is the updated version of our mandate:
We are a Montreal based feminist collective of queer and trans-identified folks. We feel that in a city dominated by straight swinger clubs and homonormative, gay male-only sex spaces, there is a need for women and queer/trans friendly spaces to express our sexualities. We are a sex and kink positive collective that is committed to anti-oppression and harm reduction based politics. We seek to create events where queer and trans people of all genders can play together in a consensual environment. In addition to this, we embrace honest dialogue about sexuality, consent, race, abuse, gender, queer issues, and fighting back against oppression in our own communities. And, ultimately, we are committed to getting (you) off!
If you have any questions, concerns, or queeries, please feel free to contact us at montrealsexparty@gmail.com
Kinky Kisses,
The Against the Wall Collective
